Uniquely Rika by Ms. Rika , Ms.Rika

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May 04, 2008: Ms. Rika really understands the needs of service subs. I consider myself in this category and love that special connection when you are able to pamper and take care of the needs of a Domme. Where her take differs from other views I?ve encountered is that service should be its own reward. In other words, the reward for a sub who does good service is to be in service in the first place. An extension of this is her view that scene play and sexual tension (including tease and denial and chastity) are gifts that a Domme can give to a sub but not tied to their primary service in any way. By offering up gifts instead of rewards a Domme avoids creating a 'tit for tat' environment where the sub expects some sort of sexual payment for services rendered. This was actually a really new take for me on the D/s dynamic, but after some reflection I believe it truly is the key to a successful service-based D/s relationship. The pleasure for a sub should come from the act of serving. If not, then you really aren?t a service sub and any long-term relationship built on those principals is bound to fail. Ms. Rika also points out that every D/s relationship needs a solid vanilla relationship or marriage as a foundation. This can include, in her opinion, the sub initiating sex if that is something pleasing for the Domme. Also, despite her view that scene play and orgasm denial are games gifted for the sake of the sub, Ms. Rika gives some fantastic advice and guidelines for these male-centric sexual activities. This is the only book I?ve seen that really addresses the realities of forming a long-term D/s relationship and I highly recommend it for any couples who are working toward that goal. It?s also a great read for any service sub as Ms. Rika explains the core concepts of service and what being a service sub really means.