Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum

Fantastic approach to solving relationship ambivalenceby LemSK

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August 31, 2009: The title said it all to me- I was in a relationship that was "Too good to leave [and] too bad to stay". Kirshenbaum lead me through stages of trying to solve which one was really true. Based on her experieces counseling real couples (and their happiness with their decisions to stay in or get out of relationships) this book takes a new approach to "weighing" the situation.

Essentially, the book asks a series of questions that try to get to the bottom of your relationship- if it is really too broken to fix or if it has too much potential to abandon. It was very helpful to have a book that encouraged action; when you're in relationship ambivalence you put all your energy into trying to decide instead of trying to fix the situation or trying to get out and over it. By examining everything through Kirshenbaum's questions, you can hopefully decide what is best for you and act on it.

I'd highly recommend this book to anyone stuck in the relationship grey area the title describes.

Need help deciding your futureby Anonymous

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February 09, 2009: Sometimes we are so immersed in a situation, we cannot see clearly.
Twelve years ago, this book and it's commonsense advice helped me
come to a final decision about leaving my marriage of 25 years. It
gave situations people might be involved in - and gave clear cut
comments on these situations--Eg: "Most people in this situation found
they were happier if they stayed, or if they left the relationship"
It helped me see more clearly during a time when my self confidence and self esteem were nil. Thank you Mira.