| Illustrations | x |
| Preface to the Second Edition | xi |
| Introduction | xv |
| Chapter 1 | Welcome | 1 |
| Chapter 2 | Desire and Fantasy | 3 |
| What's Your Fetish? | 5 |
| Run Wild | 7 |
| Make Your Dreams Come True | 8 |
| Nurture Your Libido | 10 |
| Sex + Intimacy | 14 |
| Fantasy | 14 |
| Lesbian Porn | 16 |
| Chapter 3 | Anatomy and Sexual Response | 19 |
| Anatomy | 19 |
| Sexual Response | 27 |
| Sexual Response over a Lifetime | 30 |
| Chapter 4 | Orgasm | 45 |
| This Is Taking Too Long | 46 |
| If You Can't Have an Orgasm | 47 |
| Does Viagra Work for Women? | 48 |
| How Do You Come? | 49 |
| Getting Her Off | 51 |
| Multiple Orgasms | 52 |
| Tantra and Extended Orgasms | 53 |
| Ejaculation | 55 |
| Chapter 5 | The Road to Heaven Leads to You | 59 |
| A Love/Hate Relationship | 60 |
| Take a Good Look | 62 |
| Appreciate Yourself | 63 |
| Take It In | 63 |
| Join the Crowd | 63 |
| Get Into Your Body | 65 |
| Somatic Healing | 66 |
| You Are What You Eat | 68 |
| Get a Pelvic Exam | 68 |
| Safer Sex, Please | 69 |
| Be Present | 72 |
| Life Changes | 73 |
| Chapter 6 | Masturbation | 75 |
| What Will Masturbation Do for You? | 75 |
| The Masturbation Workshop Adventure | 78 |
| Teach Yourself Some New Tricks | 81 |
| How-To's of Masturbation | 82 |
| Solo Toys | 83 |
| Erotica and Fantasy | 84 |
| How-To's of Orgasm | 84 |
| Masturbating with a Partner | 86 |
| Chapter 7 | Communication and Finding Sex Partners | 89 |
| Geography, Not Destiny | 90 |
| Talk Talk Talk | 91 |
| Tongue-Tied? | 94 |
| Who Are You Looking For? | 95 |
| Making Your Move | 97 |
| "No, Thank You" | 98 |
| Personal Ads in Newspapers and Magazines | 99 |
| Sex on the Internet | 100 |
| Play Safe | 102 |
| Sex Parties | 102 |
| Sex Talk Guidelines | 103 |
| Where to Learn More | 104 |
| Chapter 8 | Sex and Partnership | 107 |
| Erotic Intimacy | 108 |
| What Kind of Sex Life Do You Want, Anyway? | 109 |
| What Kind of Partnership Do You Want? | 117 |
| You Make It Happen | 121 |
| What's Holding You Back? | 130 |
| Low Libido High Libido One Libido No Libido | 132 |
| What? No Sex? | 137 |
| Find Your Passion | 139 |
| Sexual Community | 140 |
| Keep It Happening | 143 |
| Chapter 9 | Breast Play | 147 |
| Sensitivity | 148 |
| Teach Your Partner | 149 |
| How-To's of Breast Play | 150 |
| Nipple Piercings | 151 |
| Toys for Breast Play | 152 |
| Chapter 10 | Clitoral Play | 155 |
| The Art of the Hand | 156 |
| Take a Tour | 156 |
| What If Your Hand Gets Tired? | 158 |
| Frottage | 160 |
| How-To's of Clitoral Stimulation | 160 |
| Genital Piercings | 161 |
| Genital Shaving | 162 |
| How-To's of Genital Shaving | 163 |
| Toys for Clitoral Play | 164 |
| Clitoral Play-Safely | 166 |
| Where to Learn More | 166 |
| Chapter 11 | Oral Sex | 167 |
| Cunnilingus | 169 |
| Going Down on Your Girl | 171 |
| How-To's of Cunnilingus | 172 |
| Analingus | 173 |
| How-To's of Analingus | 175 |
| Positions for Oral Sex | 176 |
| What a Pain in the Neck! | 176 |
| (Detachable) Cocksucking | 177 |
| How to Suck (Detachable) Cock | 180 |
| Oral Sex-Safely | 180 |
| So What's a Girl to Do? | 182 |
| Chapter 12 | Vaginal Penetration | 185 |
| Take a Tour | 185 |
| Finger-Fucking | 187 |
| Vaginal Fisting | 189 |
| Strap-On Dildos | 193 |
| How-To's of Vaginal Penetration | 197 |
| Positions for Vaginal Penetration | 198 |
| Toys for Vaginal Play | 200 |
| Vaginal Penetration-Safely | 201 |
| Where to Learn More | 202 |
| Chapter 13 | Anal Penetration | 205 |
| Take a Tour | 205 |
| Basic Preparations | 208 |
| Finger-Fucking | 211 |
| Anal Fisting | 213 |
| Strap-On Dildos | 215 |
| How-To's of Anal Penetration | 219 |
| Positions for Anal Penetration | 219 |
| Toys for Anal Penetration | 221 |
| Anal Penetration-Safely | 222 |
| Where to Learn More | 223 |
| Chapter 14 | Gender (Not Destiny) | 225 |
| What Is Gender? | 226 |
| Intersexuality | 227 |
| Transgender and Transsexual | 228 |
| Partners of Transgendered Women and Men | 231 |
| Sexual Orientation | 234 |
| Playing with the Boys | 235 |
| Butch/Femme | 236 |
| Chapter 15 | Play Nice! (...or Else) | 241 |
| Ouch!!! (Yum...) | 242 |
| Negotiation | 244 |
| Creating the S/M Scene: Ritual and Theater | 247 |
| Pushing the Emotional Edges | 248 |
| Teach Yourself Some New Tricks | 251 |
| How Do You Know What You Want? | 262 |
| Toys for BDSM Play | 264 |
| That Sounds Dangerous! | 265 |
| BDSM Play-Safely | 266 |
| Where to Learn More | 266 |
| Chapter 16 | Play Parties and Public Sex | 269 |
| Commercial Sex | 269 |
| Play Parties | 271 |
| How to Have Fun at a Sex Party | 273 |
| Where to Find Play Parties | 274 |
| Play Party Etiquette | 275 |
| How to Throw a Safer-Sex Party | 275 |
| Chapter 17 | Sex Toys and Accoutrements | 279 |
| How to Choose Sex Toys | 284 |
| Got Your Lube? | 296 |
| Got Your Safer-Sex Supplies? | 298 |
| Does Latex Make You Itch? | 298 |
| How's Your Budget? | 299 |
| How to Care for Your Toys | 300 |
| Chapter 18 | Safer Sex and Gynecological Health | 303 |
| Talking to Your Doctor About Sex | 304 |
| Gynecological Care | 305 |
| STDs and Gynecological Concerns | 306 |
| What If Your Partner Won't Use Barriers? | 316 |
| What If You Have an STD? | 318 |
| Chapter 19 | Bibliography | 321 |
| Chapter 20 | Resources | 335 |
| Notes | 359 |
| Index | 367 |
| About the Author | 377 |