Foreword 9
Acknowledgements 11
Terminology 12
Using this book 12
Introduction 13
Chapter 1 Understanding the Difference 15
The different species concept
Different needs
A different way of thought processing
A different perspective
Chapter 2 Communication 23
Communicating on different wavelengths
One thing at a time
Rules for giving important messages
Memory aids
Expressing feelings
Feelings in colour
The card communication system
Three rules for good arguing
Strategies to avoid breaking the rules
The frustration or anger thermometer
Whole sentence strategy
Unresolved issues
Chapter 3 Non-verbal Communication 53
Assumptions
Intonation of communication
MAD moments
Chapter 4 Social Interaction 61
Important socialising rules
A need for a different environment
Celebrations
Arranging surprise celebrations
Getting the context right
Chapter 5 Sexual Issues 79
Making a partner feel special
Sensory sensitivity
Finding a new way of sexual communication
Chapter 6 Parenting 89
Being distracted
Understanding the kids
House rules
Sharing responsibilities
An extra child
Chapter 7 Home Life 97
Special interests
Time awareness
Selective hearing
Getting the priorities right
Chapter 8 Who to Tell about Asperger? 111
A practical way to demonstrate communication difficulties to a child
A practical way to explain the effect of social interaction to a child
Telling parents
Telling friends
Employers and colleagues at work
Chapter 9 What is Cassandra? 121
What causes CADD?
What are the symptoms of CADD?
What can be done to prevent CADD?
Chapter 10 Difference Can Work 131
References 135
FurtherReading 137
Further Information and Research 138
Index 139