Synopsis

How can we keep children safe in an uncertain world, but also raise them to be confident in taking the healthy, emotional risks necessary to succeed in life? The authors of this unique book-two clinical psychologists, who are also mothers-provide essential guidance for parents and teachers. They explain, step-by-step, how to help children become successful risk-takers: ready to leap at life's opportunities and triumph over setbacks along the way. With stories based on the diverse families from their practice-from parents afraid to let their rambunctious daughter out of sight, to those who fear their shy son may lose opportunities to connect at home and school-they offer real-world scenarios with realistic solutions. Readers will find helpful checklists, self-reflection exercises, and other resources in this authoritative book.

Children's Literature - Paula McMillen

Written in an accessible style by two practicing and teaching clinical psychologists, this book advocates that parents take an intentional stance toward fostering wise, risk-taking behavior in their children. Nothing here is new or revolutionary, but the focus on risk-taking—emotional and physical—as an essential part of normal development is a unique perspective on parenting. They remind readers that "...risks are a foundation for learning...if we are totally comfortable with a situation, new learning occurs. And at the other end...if we are filled with fear, there is little or no learning" (p. ix). Their target population here is three to ten year olds. They cite basic research on neuropsychology to point out that we are all born with temperamental differences that, while not cast in stone for a lifetime, need to be taken into account when helping children play to their strengths in order to develop new skills. It is admirable that they counsel parents to first self-reflect and then to practice focused listening in order to most effectively guide their children. Developmentally appropriate risks are described and the final chapter offers descriptions of play activities (drawing, storytelling, physical games, etc.) that can encourage good risk-taking. Because school is the place where many risks need to be taken, teachers are often identified as allies and partners in this endeavor. Communication, both with teachers and between parent and child, is emphasized. Short vignettes of parent-child interactions, representing a variety of temperaments, skills, and challenges are offered throughout to illustrate concepts. The text is followed by annotated lists of books for parents and for children. This is a book that would be of value to parents and teachers alike. Reviewer: Paula McMillen, Ph.D.