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Whether they are corporate professionals, budding entrepreneurs, or own a home business, most people are looking to achieve more in less time, while earning enough money to live comfortably. This book reveals the proven techniques thousands of people have used to attain all of the money they wanted while living healthy, happy and balanced lives. The Power of Focus is a practical, no-nonsense guide that shows readers how to reach their business, personal and financial goals without getting burned out in the process.
Canfield, Hansen, and Hewitt have taken the best ideas from their own successful careers (seventy-nine years of combined business expertise), and distilled them into ten powerful focusing principles. The result is a treasury of insights that is enjoyable to read and easy to understand. At the outset, the book identifies the three most important fundamentals for consistent success: developing unusual clarity; understanding that habits determine your future; and using a "no exceptions policy" approach to focus on what you want. Numerous anecdotes and inspiring stories help to reinforce each principle.
More Reviews and RecommendationsMotivational speaker Jack Canfield is the co-creator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series. With over 65 books to his credit, Canfield has taken the inspirational advice he delivered in his speeches and forged one of the most popular book series in print.
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Focus on Your Strengths
John R. Aberle, Small Business Consultant, 08/08/2006
I have been thoroughly impressed by this book. It covers goal setting and achievement from a somewhat different perspective. For instance, the authors criticize the American Educational System efforts to make everyone marginally competent in everything. As they point out, the great achievers in sports and in business identify what they are great at then focus, focus, focus on honing those skills. Achievers let someone else handle their weak areas. These three authors liberally sprinkle insights like this throughout the book. Another key concept is the power of an afternoon nap to recharge your batteries mid-day thereby allowing you to return to work refreshed and alert. Finally, to keep a sense of humor, they include some great cartoons.
Also recommended: Touched By The Dragon's Breath, Conversations at Colliding Rivers Harrington, Michael Wilsonville, Oregon: Susan Creek Books. 2003
Jack Canfield walks his talk
A reviewer, A reviewer, 08/14/2003
The author has used these principles to create outstanding success. This book is well worth reading if you want to be successful. Another book that I absolutely recommend is Optimal Thinking because it shows you how to be your best and make the most of every situation
Also recommended: Optimal Thinking--How to be your Best Self by Dr. Rosalene Glickman
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Jack Canfield
Current Home:
Santa Barbara, California
Date of Birth:
August 19, 1944
Place of Birth:
Fort Worth, Texas
Education:
B.A. in History, Harvard University, 1966; M.A.T. Program, University of Chicago, 1968; M.Ed., U. of Massachusetts, 1973
While Jack Canfield himself may not necessarily be a household name, it's very likely that you have heard of his famed Chicken Soup for the Soul series and nearly as likely that you have at least one of them sitting on your very own bookshelf! Having got his start as an inspirational speaker, Canfield's own story is nothing less than inspirational.
Jack Canfield had been traveling around delivering key note speeches and organizing workshops to help audiences build their self-esteem and maximize their potential when he had an in-flight brainstorm that changed his life. While flying home from a gig, Canfield realized that the very same advice he had been delivering during his in-person addresses could potentially form the basis of a book. Canfield used inspirational stories he'd gleaned over the years as the basis of his speeches, and he thought it would be a terrific idea to gather together 101 inspirational stories and anthologize them in a single volume. Upon returning home, Canfield approached friend and author Mark Victor Hansen about his concept. Hansen agreed it was a great idea, and the two men set about finding a publisher. Believe it or not, the mega-selling series was not an easy sell to publishers. "We were rejected by 123 publishers all told," Canfield told Shareguide.com. "The first time we went to New York, we visited with about a dozen publishers in a two day period with our agent, and nobody wanted it. They all said it was a stupid title, that nobody bought collections of short stories, that there was no edge -- no sex, no violence. Why would anyone read it?"
Canfield wisely practiced what he preached -- and persisted. Ultimately, he and Hansen sold the first Chicken Soup for the Soul book to a small press based in Deerfield Beach, Florida, called Health Communications. The rest, as they say, is history. There are currently 80 million copies of the Chicken Soup books in print, with subjects as varied as Chicken Soup For the Horse Lover's Soul and Chicken Soup For the Prisoner's Soul. Canfield and Hansen ranked as the top-selling authors of 1997 and are multiple New York Times bestsellers. Most important of all, the inspirational stories they have gathered in their many volumes have improved the lives of countless readers.
This year, expect to see Canfield's name gracing the covers of such titles as Chicken Soup For the Scrapbooker's Soul, Chicken Soup For the Mother and Son Soul, and Chicken Soup For the African American Woman's Soul. He and Hansen have also launched the all-new "Healthy Living" series and 8 titles in that series have already been released this year. There is also the fascinating You've GOT to Read This Book!, in which Canfield compiles personal accounts by 55 people each discussing a book that has changed his or her life. The most compelling of these may be the story of young entrepreneur Farrah Gray, who read Deepak Chopra's The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success at the age of 11 and made his first million dollars at the age of 14!
With no sign of slowing down, Canfield continues to be an inspiration to millions, who fortunately refused to give up when it seemed as though he would never even get his first book published. "Mark and I are big believers in perseverance," he said. "If you have a vision and a life purpose, and you believe in it, then you do not let external events tell you what is so. You follow your internal guidance and follow your bliss, as Joseph Campbell used to say."
Canfield is the founder of two California based self-esteem programs, "Self-Esteem Seminars" in Santa Barbara and "The Foundation For Self Esteem" in Culver City.
Writing the first Chicken Soup book was a lot more daunting than Canfield expected. After the first three years of research, he and Mark Victor Hansen had only compiled 68 stories -- 33 tales shy of their goal of 101 stories.
Along with co-writing dozens of full-length books, Canfield also publishes a free biweekly newsletter called Success Strategies.
Some fun and fascinating outtakes from our interview with Canfield:
"My inspiration for writing comes from my passion for teaching others how to live more effective lives. I started out as a history teacher in an all-black inner city high school in Chicago, graduated to a teacher trainer, then psychotherapist, then trainer of therapists, then large group transformational trainer and then a writer and keynote speaker. All along the way, my desire was to make a difference, to help people live more fulfilling lives. That is what I still do today. Most people don't know this but I was not a good writer in college. I got a C in composition. Nobody would have ever believed I would grow up to be a bestselling author."
"I play guitar, and I am learning to play the piano. I love movies and some TV shows. My favorites are Six Feet Under, Grey's Anatomy, House and Lost. I love to play Scrabble, poker and backgammon with my in-laws, nieces and nephews. We really get into it. I love to travel. I have been to 25 countries and try to add two or three new ones every year."
What was the book that most influenced your life or your career as a writer?
Life After Life by Dr. Raymond Moody. I have a whole chapter on how this book changed my life in my book You've Got to Read This Book! that I co-authored with Gay Hendricks. The book changed my life by introducing me to the phenomenon of clinical near death experiences, in which people have been clinically dead for several minutes but have recall of their experiences while dead. The most impactful part was that almost all people reporting these experiences were asked two questions by the spiritual being they met (Jesus, Buddha, etc.). These two questions were "How have you expanded your capacity to love?" and "What wisdom have you gained from your experience?" When I first read this book while in graduate school back in 1971, I decided to devote my life to studying these two areas and teaching others what I learned in regard to how to be more loving and how to gain wisdom from our lives and the lives of others. This is what has led to the Chicken Soup for the Soul books and my books on how to live more successful lives.
What are your all-time favorite books?
I have read over 3000 books in the last 46 years. There are so many that I love. Here are a few of my favorites:
What are some of your favorite films, and what makes them unforgettable to you?
What types of music do you like? Is there any particular kind you like to listen to when you're writing?
I love all kinds of music. I grew up in West Virginia listening to country music and I have over 1000 country CDs. I also have an extensive collection of jazz, rock, folk, international, classical and what might be called new age music. I listen to instrumental music when I write -- music from Daniel Kobialka, John Tesch, Peter Kater, Hilary Stagg, Jim Brickman, Kenny G, Michael Jones, and the like.
If you had a book club, what would it be reading?
Right now I'd have them reading You've Got to Read This Book!: 55 People Tell the Story of the Book that Changed Their Life. The reason is that it is a fascinating book and it opens so many doors to other great books to read. It gives people insight into so many people that they know and the books that shaped their lives.
What are your favorite kinds of books to give -- and get -- as gifts?
I love to give books that are inspirational in nature. I have given multiple copies of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra, Loving What Is by Byron Katie and The Hidden Messages in Water by Masaru Emoto. And of course, I have given away thousands of copies of Chicken Soup for the Soul books as gifts.
Do you have any special writing rituals? For example, what do you have on your desk when you're writing?
I don't have any writing rituals. I just sit down and write -- often for as many as 16 hours in a row. I turn the phone off and have a do not disturb sign on the door. I do my best writing at night. I have seen the sun come up way too many mornings after an all night writing session!
What are you working on now?
I am working on several Chicken Soup for the Soul books (always). Currently -- Chicken Soup for the Twenty-Something Soul, Chicken Soup for the Extraordinary Teen Soul, and Chicken Soup for the Laughing Soul, which will contain all funny stories. I am also writing a sequel to The Success Principles entitled Effortless Success. It will focus on how to apply the Law of Attraction to your life, so that success can be achieved much more easily.
Many writers are hardly "overnight success" stories. How long did it take for you to get where you are today? Any rejection-slip horror stories or inspirational anecdotes?
Most people don't know this, but Chicken Soup for the Soul was rejected by more than 140 publishers. It was so bad that our agent gave us the manuscript back and told us that the book was never going to be published. Mark and I took the book to the American Book Sellers Association convention where there were 4000 publishers with booths, and we walked from booth to booth for three days attempting to find a publisher. Finally on the third day, Health Communications Inc., a small publisher from Florida, agreed to take a look at it. When they agreed to publish it, we did not receive an advance. Nor did we get a lot of marketing support in the beginning. We did not hit a best seller list until 14 months after the book was published. Then it stayed on the New York Times bestseller list for almost 3 years. We later went on to win a Guinness Book of Records for having 7 books on the New York Times bestseller list on May 24th, 1998!
If you could choose one new writer to be "discovered," who would it be?
My son Oran Canfield is writing a book entitled Can I Have Some Bread with my Chicken Soup? It is about his years growing up as my son. His mother and I were divorced when he was only two years old and he then had a very bizarre but interesting life growing up on the west coast. He is an amazing writer -- very funny. Kind of in the Running with Scissors by Augusten Burroughs style. When his book is finished I am convinced it will be a bestseller.
What tips or advice do you have for writers still looking to be discovered?
Practice your craft of writing and get as much feedback from as many people as you can and keep honing your writing and finding your voice. Write what you know. Write from your heart. Don't chase the money. Chase the desire to be the best writer you can be. If you have the passion for writing, never give up!
The ability to exchange information via cell phones, palm devices, and videoconferencing has not proved to be the panacea to all of our workplace ills. How many emails have you sent out that never got read because the recipient was simply overwhelmed by details, projects, and ideas that couldn't be accommodated during the workday? If you want to insure that you don't become a victim to information fatigue or burnout, this book should help. Authors Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, and Les Hewitt will teach you how to improve your focus so that you can remain effective and happy in your work.
Whether they are corporate professionals, budding entrepreneurs, or own a home business, most people are looking to achieve more in less time, while earning enough money to live comfortably. This book reveals the proven techniques thousands of people have used to attain all of the money they wanted while living healthy, happy and balanced lives. The Power of Focus is a practical, no-nonsense guide that shows readers how to reach their business, personal and financial goals without getting burned out in the process.
Canfield, Hansen, and Hewitt have taken the best ideas from their own successful careers (seventy-nine years of combined business expertise), and distilled them into ten powerful focusing principles. The result is a treasury of insights that is enjoyable to read and easy to understand. At the outset, the book identifies the three most important fundamentals for consistent success: developing unusual clarity; understanding that habits determine your future; and using a "no exceptions policy" approach to focus on what you want. Numerous anecdotes and inspiring stories help to reinforce each principle.
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Focus on Your Strengths
John R. Aberle, Small Business Consultant, 08/08/2006
I have been thoroughly impressed by this book. It covers goal setting and achievement from a somewhat different perspective. For instance, the authors criticize the American Educational System efforts to make everyone marginally competent in everything. As they point out, the great achievers in sports and in business identify what they are great at then focus, focus, focus on honing those skills. Achievers let someone else handle their weak areas. These three authors liberally sprinkle insights like this throughout the book. Another key concept is the power of an afternoon nap to recharge your batteries mid-day thereby allowing you to return to work refreshed and alert. Finally, to keep a sense of humor, they include some great cartoons.
Also recommended: Touched By The Dragon's Breath, Conversations at Colliding Rivers Harrington, Michael Wilsonville, Oregon: Susan Creek Books. 2003
Jack Canfield walks his talk
A reviewer, A reviewer, 08/14/2003
The author has used these principles to create outstanding success. This book is well worth reading if you want to be successful. Another book that I absolutely recommend is Optimal Thinking because it shows you how to be your best and make the most of every situation
Also recommended: Optimal Thinking--How to be your Best Self by Dr. Rosalene Glickman
So much wisdom for so little money...
Johan, A reviewer, 05/09/2002
This book gives a profound description of how to go if you want to pursue success, or happiness in your life. It is giving a lot of practical, and timeless information about different stages in the reach for your goals, and is written with a lot of step-by-step guides. This was the first book I read twice in a row. I like the step-by-step procedures that are described, and the referrals to other books in this field that made an impact on my life. It is impossible to try to make an overview in here, and that would probably hurt the book... but if you are looking for direction in your life, if you want to hit your targets, your degree of certainty will raise exponentially, after reading this master piece...
Also recommended: Grow and think rich by Napoleon Hill
| Acknowledgments | xv |
| Foreword the Purpose of this Book: What's in it for you | xviii |
| Your Habits Will Determine Your Future | 1 |
| It's Not Hocus-Pocus, It's All About Focus | 30 |
| Do You See The Big Picture? | 57 |
| Creating Optimum Balance | 93 |
| Building Excellent Relationships | 120 |
| The Confidence Factor | 158 |
| Ask For What You Want | 185 |
| Consistent Persistence | 212 |
| Taking Decisive Action | 241 |
| Living On Purpose | 270 |
The severe asthmatic attack had deteriorated into adult respiratory distress syndrome. To put it simply, his lungs had completely seized, just like a car engine when it finally runs out of oil.
The last thing he remembered that night was the hospital floor rushing up to meet him, then, total blackness. The coma lasted for fifteen days, during which time his weight dropped by forty pounds. When he finally awoke, he was unable to speak for another two weeks. That was good, because for the first time in years it gave him time to think. Why, at only twenty years of age, had his life almost evaporated? The doctors had done a miraculous job keeping him alive, when others thought he had no chance for survival.
Brent reflected deeply. The asthma had been a part of his life since birth. He was well known at the hospital after numerous visits to stabilize his condition. Despite having lots of energy as a child, he was never able to participate in any physical activities like other kids, such as skating or hockey. At age ten, his parents divorced and all of his pent-up frustrations finally boiled over. The next few years were a continuous downward spiral leading to drugs, alcohol abuse and a smoking habit that consumed thirty cigarettes per day.
He didn't finish school and aimlessly drifted from one part-time job to the next. Even though his health was steadily getting worse, he chose to ignore it-until that fateful nightwhen his body said, "no more. " With time to reflect, he came to this all-important conclusion: "I brought this on myself through years of making bad choices. " His new resolve was, "Never again; I want a life. "
Brent gradually became stronger and was eventually released from the hospital. Soon after, he mapped out a positive game plan to improve his life. First he enrolled in a fitness program. One of his initial goals was to win a T-shirt for completing twelve sessions. He did it. Three years later he was teaching aerobics. The momentum was building. Five years after that he competed in the National Aerobics Championships. Along the way he decided to further his education-first, completing his high school diploma and then successfully working his way through university.
Next, he and a friend started their own manufacturing business, Typhoon Sportswear Ltd. , typhoonsportswear. com, specializing in producing apparel for retail chains. Starting with only four employees, the company recently celebrated its fifteenth anniversary.
Today it's a multimillion-dollar enterprise with sixty-six people and an international distribution network supplying high-profile clients such as Nike. By deciding to make better choices and create better habits, Brent Vouri turned his life around-from yesterday's zero to today's hero!
Here's what's important: Life doesn't just happen to you. It's all about choices and how you respond to every situation. If you are in the habit of continually making bad choices, disaster often occurs. Your everyday choices ultimately determine whether you end up living with abundance or living in poverty. However, life never completely closes the door to opportunity.
Consistent choices lay the foundation for your habits, as you'll find out in the next few pages. And your habits play a major role in how your future unfolds. This includes the habits you display to the business world every day, as well as the variety of behaviors that show up in your personal life. Throughout this book, you'll find strategies that can be applied to both work and home. Your job is to review all of them and implement the ones that will give you the greatest rewards. By the way, all of these strategies work equally well for men and women. They are not gender specific. If you haven't noticed, one of the most exciting developments in the marketplace today is the rapid growth of women entrepreneurs.
In this chapter, we've laid out the most important elements about habits. First you'll discover how habits really work. Then you'll learn how to identify bad habits and how to change them. This will allow you to check out your own specific habits and determine which ones are unproductive. Finally, we'll show you a unique Successful Habits Formula, a simple but powerful strategy that will help you transform your bad habits into successful habits. Using this technique will ensure that you stay focused on what works, instead of what doesn't work.
What is a habit? Simply stated, a habit is something you do so often it becomes easy. In other words, it's a behavior that you keep repeating. If you persist at developing a new behavior, eventually it becomes automatic.
For example, if you learn to drive a car with a standard gearshift, the first few lessons are usually interesting. One of the big challenges is figuring out how to synchronize the clutch and accelerator pedals so you have a nice, smooth gear change. If you release the clutch too quickly, the car stalls. If you press down too hard on the accelerator without releasing the clutch, the engine roars but you don't go anywhere. Sometimes the car jumps down the street like a kangaroo, surging and stopping as the new driver struggles with the pedals. However, with practice, the gear change eventually becomes smooth and you don't think about it anymore.
Les:We are all creatures of habit. When I drive home from my office every day, there are nine traffic lights along the route. Often I get home and don't remember any of the lights. It's like I'm unconscious as I drive. If my wife asks me to make a detour to pick up something on the way home, it's not uncommon for me to totally forget because I've programmed myself to take the same way home every night.
The great news is that you can reprogram yourself any time you choose to do so. If you're struggling financially, this is important to know!
Let's say you want to be financially independent. Doesn't it make sense to check your money-making habits? Are you in the habit of paying yourself first every month? Do you consistently save and invest at least 10 percent of your income? The answer is either 'yes' or 'no. ' Immediately you can see if you are moving in the right direction. The key word here is consistent. That means every month. And every month is a good habit. Most people dabble when it comes to growing their money. They are very inconsistent.
Suppose you start a savings and investment program. For the first six months you diligently put your 10 percent away according to plan. Then something happens. You borrow the money to take a vacation, and you tell yourself you'll make it up in the next few months. Of course you don't-and your financial independence program is stalled before it even gets off the ground! By the way, do you know how easy it is to become financially secure? Starting at age eighteen if you invest one hundred dollars per month compounding annually at ten percent, you will have more than $1. 1 million tucked away at age sixty-five. Even if you don't start until you are forty years old, there's hope, although it will take more than a daily dollar to do it.
This is called a no exceptions policy. In other words, you commit to your better financial future every single day. It's what separates the people who have from the people who don't have. (In chapter 9, Taking Decisive Action, you'll learn a lot more about wealth creation. )
Let's look at another situation. If maintaining excellent health is high on your list of priorities, exercising three times a week may be the minimum standard to keep you in shape. A No Exceptions Policy means you will maintain this exercise habit no matter what happens, because you value the long-term benefits.
People who dabble at change will quit after a few weeks or months. And they usually have a long list of excuses why it didn't work out for them. If you want to distance yourself from the masses and enjoy a unique lifestyle, understand this-your habits will determine your future.
It's that important. Remember, successful people don't drift to the top. It takes focused action, personal discipline and lots of energy every day to make things happen. The habits you develop from this day forward will ultimately determine how your future works out. Rich or poor. Healthy or unhealthy. Fulfilled or unfulfilled. Happy or unhappy. It's your choice, so choose wisely.
Many people today are concerned about their lifestyle. Phrases like, "I'm looking for a better quality of life," or "I just want to simplify my life," are now commonplace. It seems the headlong rush for material success and all the trappings of a so-called successful life are not enough. To be truly rich includes not only financial freedom, but developing rich, meaningful relationships, enriching your health, and enjoying a rich balance between your career and your personal life.
The nourishment of your own spirit or soul is also an essential requirement. This takes time to explore and expand. It is a never- ending process. The more you learn about yourself-how you think, how you feel, what your true purpose is and how you want to live-the more your life will flow.
Instead of just working hard every week, you will begin to make better choices based on intuition and instinctively knowing the right thing to do. It is this higher level of awareness that determines your daily quality of life. In chapter 10, Living On Purpose, we'll show you a unique system that will make all of this possible for you. It's a very exciting way to live.
Many people today live their lives for immediate gratification. They buy things they can't really afford and put off payment as far down the road as possible. Cars, furniture, appliances, entertainment systems, or the latest 'toy,' just to name a few. People in the habit of doing this have a sense of playing catch-up all the time. There's always another payment next month. This often results in working longer hours or taking an additional job just to make ends meet, creating even more stress.
Taken to an extreme, if your expenses constantly exceed your income, you will have an ultimate outcome. It's called bankruptcy! When you develop a chronic bad habit, life will eventually give you consequences. And you may not like the consequences. Here's what you need to really understand: Life will still give you the consequences. Whether you like it or not isn't the issue. The fact is, if you keep on doing things a certain way you will always get a predictable result. Negative habits breed negative consequences. Successful habits create positive rewards. That's just the way life is.
Let's look at a few other examples. If you want to enjoy longevity, you must have healthy habits. Practicing good nutrition, exercising and studying longevity play a major role here. The reality? Most of the population in the Western world is overweight, under-exercised and undernourished. How would you explain that? Again, it's a live-for-the-moment attitude, with little or no thought given to future consequences. There's a long list when it comes to health. Here are a couple-working fourteen hours per day seven days a week will lead to eventual burnout. When you're eating fast foods or junk food on the run as a daily habit, the combination of stress and high cholesterol produces a much greater risk of heart attacks and strokes. These are life-threatening consequences, yet many people ignore the obvious and roll merrily along, undaunted by the fact that a major crisis may be looming just around the corner.
Look at relationships. Marriage is in trouble, with almost 50 percent ending up in divorce. If you are in the habit of starving your most important relationships of time, energy and love, how can you expect a happy outcome? When it comes to money, your bad habits may lead you to a never-ending cycle of work in your later years, when you'd rather be enjoying more time off for fun.
Now here's some really good news:
Many of our habits, patterns, idiosyncrasies and quirks are invisible, causing renowned author Oliver Wendell Holmes to observe, "We all need an education in the obvious. " So let's look more closely at the habits that are holding you back. You are probably conscious of a few right away. Here are some common ones we have received from clients in our workshops.
Now check yourself out by making a list of all the habits that keep you unproductive. Block off an hour or more so you can really think through this process. And plan it so you won't be interrupted. It's a worthy exercise and will give you a strong foundation for improving your results in the years ahead. In fact, these bad habits, or obstacles to your goals, really act as a springboard to your future success. Until you clearly understand what is holding you back, it's difficult to create more productive habits. The Successful Habits Formula at the end of this chapter will show you a practical way to transform your bad habits into successful strategies.
Another way to identify your unproductive behavior is to ask for feedback. Talk to people you respect and admire, who know you well. Ask them what they observe about your bad habits. Look for consistency. If you talk to ten people and eight of them say you never return phone calls on time, pay attention. Remember this-your outward behavior is the truth, whereas your inner perception of your behavior is often an illusion. If you are open to good honest feedback, you can make adjustments quickly and eliminate bad habits permanently.
This is an extremely important insight. Understand that the people you hang around with and the environment you live in strongly influence what you do. A person brought up in a negative environment, continually subjected to physical or verbal abuse, has a different view of the world than a child reared in a warm, loving and supportive family. Their attitudes and levels of self-esteem are different. Abusive environments often produce feelings of unworthiness and a lack of confidence, not to mention fear. This negative belief system, if carried into adult life, can produce all sorts of unproductive habits including drug addiction, criminal activity and an inability to mold a steady career path.
Peer pressure also plays a negative or positive role. If you hang around people who are always complaining about how bad everything is, you may start believing what they say. On the other hand, if you surround yourself with people who are strong and positive, you're more likely to see a world full of opportunity and adventure.
In his excellent book, NLP: The New Art and Science of Getting What You Want, author Harry Alder explains further:
Even small changes at the root level of belief will produce amazing changes in behavior and performance. This is seen more starkly in children than in adults, as they are more sensitive to suggestion and changing belief. So, for example, if children believe they are good at a sport, or a particular subject, they will actually perform better. The better performance will fuel the enhanced self-belief and they will go on to excel.
In a few rare cases a person might have an overriding self-belief that says "I'm no good at anything," and this will have a very damaging effect on anything they try to accomplish-if they bother to try. But it is far more common to have a mixture of self-beliefs, some of which are positive or "empowering" and some of which are negative or "disempowering. " A man might have a very low self-image in career terms and not see himself, for example, as being a good "manager" or "boss" or "leader". The same person, however, might see himself as a "natural" at sport, socializing, or in some hobby or pastime. Just as commonly, in a work situation, a woman might see herself highly in terms of professional ability -being able to do the job well technically-but be far from happy about handling the "office politics" side of her career. Or vice versa. So we each have a range of self-beliefs, covering the many facets of our work, social and domestic life; and we need to be specific when identifying those that affect what we achieve. We need to replace disempowering ones with empowering ones.
Even if you were unfortunate enough to have a severely disadvantaged background, you can still make changes. And it may only take one person to help you make the transition. An excellent coach, teacher, therapist, mentor or positive role model can dramatically impact your future. The only prerequisite is that you must commit to change. When you are ready to do so, the right people will start showing up to help you. In our experience, that well-known saying, "When the pupil is ready the teacher appears," is true.
(c)1999. All rights reserved. Reprinted from The Power of Focus by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Les Hewitt. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, without the written permission of the publisher. Publisher: Health Communications, Inc. , 3201 SW 15th Street, Deerfield Beach, FL 33442.
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