Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs

Good Concept-Poor Read
A reviewer, A reviewer, 07/22/2008

After sitting down numerous times to try and get through this book I give up. I love the concept and message it sends but page after page seems to be saying the same thing. I get it...respect my husband...husband-love thy wife. I thought maybe it would get better the farther I got through the book but it didn't. I'm sure the message is great at a conference, but for a full blown book it gets a little lengthy. Best part of the book is the letters sent in from various wives/husbands.

A reviewer
A reviewer, a man who needed help!, 06/02/2008

This is the best book on understanding what I've been 'saying' to my wife for all these years...as well as what she's been saying to me. However, if you're a man reading this review and thinking about getting this book...be ready to get humbled. Saving your marriage is about loving your wife and being able to do that whether she respects you or not. If you're a woman reading this review and thinking about getting this book...be ready to also be humbled. Respecting your husband is about doing so even if you don't feel loved at the time. When us men and woman understand what signals we're sending to each other and how to 'decode' them...only then will WE be able to move forward in repairing a damaged marriage...or build a stronger marriage that is already pretty well off. If men read this and only see it as their wives are at fault for every thing...THEN they really didn't read the book...I'm a man and saw ME all over the problem. The same goes for women. To clarify for the women...if you feel Emerson is only pointing out that women are at fault for their marriage being in trouble...then you really didn't read the book. My parents have been married for over 47 years...spent over 30 years in full time ministry together as senior pastor/wife team...and counseled 100's of couples...they too found this book full of tools for their marriage!!!

save your marriage, we we're at the bottom
A reviewer, A reviewer, 03/04/2008

My husband and I have been struggling for years, and this book is really been helpful in cutting through the blame game and getting onto the right track. If we are able to change our tone with each other with the help of this book and the Lord, we can do all things through Christ who give us strength for another day.

Also recommended: No mediocre life, by David Foster

A reviewer
A reviewer, a married woman., 01/02/2008

I dont think I've ever read a bigger load of BS. The author has it in for women and blames them for everything, using the bible as his justification. As an example, he tells about how he completely forgot his wifes birthday, and then goes on to say that he felt judged and put down and therefore disrespected. WHAT!?!?! He forgets her birthday, and he accuses her of disrespect??? I struggled through the whole book, and he makes some good points, but continually asserts that women are the problem in most marriages and most marital problems can be solved if women just show more respect for their husbands, even if it isnt earned. Women should be secondary to their spouses and let the man make the decisions. Women are portrayed as screeching witches and the men are just clueless and sulky. I dont screetch at my husband, and he doesnt give me the silent treatment when he's mad. Even when the author made a good point, like encouraging men to apologize -and he acknowledges that this is very difficult for most men to do- he wrecks his whole effort by then pointing out that saying your sorry often leads to sex. So, is that why men should say they are sorry? To get us into bed? In my house, all family members treat each other with respect. And I would not stay married to a man who didnt respect me. Ladies, its not all your fault. Love and respect should be mutual. Its not about you respecting him first so that he will love you. Thats crap. Instead of reading this garbage, learn to respect yourself first.

GREAT
Theresa, A reviewer, 06/24/2007

This book has revealed for my husband and I the key to a successful and happy marriage. My husband and I relate better now after we both read this book. We have both learned that we are on the same team, and therefore we should not fight against each other. We are now able to stop the crazy cycle as soon as it starts. Praise be to God! Thank you Dr. Eggerichs