| Introduction | ix |
| Part 1. | What Kind of Jew Am I? | |
| 1 | Sit Down, Shut Up, and Pray | 3 |
| 2 | Jewish History | 11 |
| 3 | Alternatives to the Big Three | 39 |
| Part 2. | Reclaiming Our Jewish Holidays | |
| 4 | The Elements of the Jewish Holidays | 53 |
| 5 | Fall Holidays | 60 |
| 6 | Hanukkah | 82 |
| 7 | Spring Holidays | 96 |
| 8 | Summer Holidays | 118 |
| 9 | Shabbes | 130 |
| Part 3. | Reclaiming Life-Cycle Observances | |
| 10 | Baby Naming | 143 |
| 11 | Bar/Bat Mitzvah | 152 |
| 12 | Weddings | 165 |
| 13 | Funerals | 180 |
| Part 4. | Now What? | |
| 14 | How to Find a Community or Start Your Own | 193 |
| 15 | How to Answer Questions About Secular Judaism | 202 |
| Appendix A | Holiday Resources | 213 |
| Appendix B | Out-of-the-Mainstream Resources | 217 |
| Selected Bibliography | 219 |